Reactivity, Week Twenty-Six in the New Abnormal
Honestly, the news this week has not been good given my values. A lot of powerful women have been sharing opinions. Yes, I concur, but I have found that it’s been challenging to be my best self in the face of these upsetting decisions. I’ve not been able to separate my reactions from the deeply disturbing news. In this moment the political is personal.
I won’t argue or opine on what this means for all of us. I will say that I find it hard to be charitable or forgiving to others when I feel so reactive. Walking on the sidewalk with a family of six spread out so I can’t pass is reason for outrage. Yes, it’s annoying, but my anger is pronounced. I’m shocked I didn’t make a nasty comment. Or, when a customer service rep is not as professional as I’d like, I dash off a letter to the organization as if I have time, or as if it was a personal affront, rather than an unpleasant exchange.
I am not going high in this moment. It would behoove me to come back to myself. It is when I am patient and caring that I can make behave thoughtfully. When I’m feeling upset like this it’s hard to not find fault in so much around me. And in doing so it exacerbates my upset, thus setting off unpleasant reactions. A treadmill of angst.
In writing this I am attempting to step off the treadmill. I will do my best to observe my reactions and bring compassion to myself and to so many others. We will need it as we take steps forward having been pushed back too far.
- Listen to yourself. Trust that when you feel a strong reaction it is informed by something you’re experiencing. Ask yourself what is happening and envelop yourself with patience and compassion, as best you can. Give yourself the space to process your experience.
- Talk to a friend. Sometimes just hearing what your friend is going through brings perspective to your own life.
- Tap into your creativity. Whether you make a new recipe, watercolor on paper, write a poem, or create a collage, you can move through stagnant moments by tapping into creative inspiration.