Emotions Ebb & Flow, Week Twenty-Eight of the New Abnormal
The cycling of moods continues. Today I’m happy. It’s beautiful outside. I get to walk on fairly empty sidewalks, and I’m ticking things off my to-do list. Earlier this week I was crestfallen. Too many tragedies and so much shared pain in the world. I find it fascinating how the ups and downs shift from day to day. Well, really, from moment to moment.
The good news about these shifts is that I know when things are particularly low, they will rise again. And when things are going well, I can appreciate them, understanding the fleeting nature of my feelings. Impermanence used to feel like a threat. I was always aware of the inevitable loss of something good. Luckily, given the fullness of time, I see things differently now. I understand that there will be other occasions of highs and lows, and that I can plan to give myself extra care when things are tough, and I can delight in the glory days when they show up.
I’m grateful that it’s been a good day since I don’t know what tomorrow will bring. But even a good day for me, may not be good for someone else. If I’m feeling strong, I can listen and learn from someone in a different space. But, often when I’m not at work and it’s been difficult for me, I don’t have the wherewithal to take in the troubles of others. That is when I have to set limits. It’s not easy since I don’t want to hurt someone else. And, yet, I know I will be hurting myself should I extend myself past my limits. In that case, having the courage to say “No” to someone else is a huge Yes to me. A simple but challenging kindness I can give myself.
- When you notice that your inner resources are scarce, see if you can lessen any interactions with those who require more of your energy than you can spare. In this way you can build up your strength for whatever is to come.
- Listen to music that meets your mood. Move to that music, whether it’s a simple sway, or a more vigorous dance.
- Surround yourself with those who are genuinely happy for you when things go well. Their generosity of heart can be empowering.